What is sarcasm but a weird way for people to talk to one another. I read one time in a book I can't remember the name of "that sarcasm is a form of manipulation". Maybe it can be. For people that are autistic it is just confusing and what you say will be taken literal. It's like the 2004 movie called "Ella Enchanted" (Directed by Tommy O'Haver, written by: Karen McCullah Lutz, and Kristen Smith, produced by Susan Miller and Jane Startz starring Anne Hathaway and Hugh Dancey.) Where she does exactly what she is told to do. You could have also grown up in the 80's reading "Amelia Bedelia" (By: Peggy Parish illustrated by: Fritz Siebel 1963-1988, published by Harper and Row) This book has idioms, and literal language. It's a good read if you don't remember them from grade school. These types of things are comical to say the least but when you have an autistic child its different. We don't want people laughing or taking advantage of our kiddos. 

                                                                                      When you use these kinds of phrasing, they hear something totally different. For example: "If you clean your room, you will be rewarded by all your hard work". Not only is that vague but you better have a surprise for them when they are done. They just heard cleaning my room means I get something in return. All you meant was that cleaning is its own reward. What about this one. "NO! or No Crushes allowed". You just told that child You Will NEVER be ALLOWED to have a crush or like another person in your life. Why is that?  It has to be taught. The differences we speak and what they hear needs to asked do you know what I am saying? Do you know what I mean. Can I give you an example. If they don't get it, they won't ask but will form their own opinion as to what you meant. I encourage my husband and son to poop talk each other because that's how they are going to learn. It is funny to hear what my son comes up with. It's cute that he tries to be sarcastic and stutters with the intro then seeks to find something similar to his experience. My little man is growing. 

                                                                                    PRANKS!! something meant to be funny but at the same time to someone else. With this one caution.  My son is learning to prank and scare me. This has been going on for months. It started with him taking coffee grinds and smearing them on the bathroom wall. I screamed "what the hell happened in here"? LAUGHTER permeated the house followed by "ha ha i tricked you". It was a joke i thought oh ok I get it. The next time he put pop it's on the outside toilet lid so if anyone sat down, they would pop. Well, if you see the prank, it's not funny but if you know it's coming then you still have to make it happen for him right. SO, I yelled. "Who popped my booty! My son again laughs his booty off. "ha ha I tricked you. I tricked you"!!There was a time however I didn't think he was so funny and that's when he came screaming in the house that sister and dad were hurt, and we needed to go to the doctor. he looked so serious. Then on the way I hear that he can't hold back his chuckles. Oh ok. This is a joke, right? OH MOM"! It's a Prank! "How did you know". he asks. "Mommy Magic". I tell him. I had to teach him the difference between safe and not safe pranks.this is the current learning phase we are in. Pranks, jokes, or funning. whatever you want to call it. It's fun. He is also learning to scare me when I come out of the bathroom. Yet he can't contain his laughter because he knows what he's going to do already and its already happened for him in his mind. Now he just has to execute it properly.

SOURCE 

Ella Enchanted (2004) - IMDb

AMELIA BEDALLIA

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